Show Up, Focus on the Good, and Keep Moving Forward

For the second interview in the Unstuck Book Club, I sat down with Cathy Lawdanski to discuss Chapter 3 (What’s Holding You Back) and Chapter 4 (Use What You’ve Got) from Unstuck.  (If you want access to the recorded interview, click here.)

I met Cathy at a local mastermind group and liked her right away. With all her wisdom, Cathy has provided me with direction and inspiration as I learn the business end of writing. I am happy to be able to call her both a mentor and a friend. 

Cathy has worn many hats over the years; therefore, she has a lot of experience and knowledge to share. She is a wife, mother, and grandmother who has pivoted several times, sometimes out of curiosity, sometimes out of calling, and sometimes out of circumstances that led her to make changes. She has worked as an educator, stay at home mom, piano teacher, non-profit volunteer and employee, writer, Rodan+Fields consultant, and adult caregiver.

What’s Holding You Back?

Cathy indicated one thing that held her back from starting a blog and becoming a Rodan+Fields consultant was fear of what people would think.

It took a crisis in her family, to make her take a step toward something new. She felt she had nothing to lose. She recognized life is short, and now was the time to make a change. She asked herself, “What is the worst thing that could happen?” It seemed taking a chance to help someone was more important than having a bit of bruised pride if no one took an interest in what she wrote.

Cathy: “We don’t have to be afraid that we are going to screw up God’s plan for our life if we get it wrong if our heart is right.”

Cathy: “Focus on all the good that could come of it. Whatever it is for you and other people.”

Lori: “If you keep your eyes there… you’re doing it to help somebody else and not benefit yourself, that will keep you moving forward.”

We also talked about fears of moving too slow and not staying up with social media. We acknowledged how social media is filtered, making it seem like everyone is an overnight success. However, it likely took months, if not years, for all those “influencers” to get where they are. We don’t always see the learning curve and struggles they had along the way.

We compared the risks and benefits of putting yourself out there and taking a step toward living your dream, the possibilities and opportunities available, and the rewards of showing up and investing in yourself.

Use What You’ve Got

Cathy and I both made career changes later in life. We discussed how skills gained over your life build upon each other to prepare you for what God has planned for you. 

The experiences Cathy had as a teacher helped her teach others through her blog. Her work with non-profit organizations enhanced her ability to succeed as an entrepreneur. Her time being a caregiver and advocate for her parents allowed her to reach out to others in similar circumstances.

I mentioned how some women feel they can’t start something new because being a stay at home mom didn’t allow them to develop a specialized skill set.

Cathy responded: “I think probably every night of my life, I’ve cooked a dinner and figured out how to get a protein, a starch, and a vegetable to come out at the same time. I don’t need any further skills or brainpower to work Instagram than what it takes to put a meal on the table. So if you can do that among the billion of other things you do as a stay at home mom, there is nothing in the online world you can’t figure out. 

We talked about the importance of investing in learning new skills and taking steps toward your dream. It’s not always easy, but the outcomes are worth it. If it doesn’t work out, try something different. At the very least, you will make connections and have new skills and knowledge to tuck away for your next adventure!!

I hope you find some value in our conversation. I’ll be posting notes and quotes from the third interview next week. Make sure to sign up to be notified when new blog posts are published at

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Until next time, be well.


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